I AM DONE! I AM COMPLETELY FINISHED WITH DOOR MAT CHRISTIANITY! Never in my life have I ever met people so dedicated to the misunderstanding of scripture and what it means to be a Christian than I have recently. For some reason people think if you are Christian, you are supposed to be meek and mild and allow people to walk all over you.
I am not this kind of person. I am not a people pleaser, I try, boy do I ever try, but I am not a people pleaser. What do Christians fear? According to Melody Wilding "people pleasing is the flip side of tremendous strengths like sensitivity and commitment. Your intentions to help may come from a good place, but it’s important to own up to the fears that are driving your "need to please.'"
Recently I had a woman call me morbidly obese, because I am a Christian and stood up for myself, I was told "You have to turn the other cheek." Recently I had a woman call me morbidly obese, because I am a Christian and stood up for myself, I was told "You have to turn the other cheek." “Turn the other cheek” doesn’t mean letting people walk all over us. When Jesus told us to turn the other cheek, He didn’t mean to let people walk all over us. Instead, Jesus meant that we should respond in love and forgive, and take the high road with other people’s transgressions. That does not mean not setting boundaries. That does not mean letting people walk all over us. In Hebrews 12:15, Paul notes that accepting this kind of treatment just causes us to become more bitter.
The idea here is that Christians shouldn’t be passive. To define our terms – being a doormat would be something that violates James 4:17 – He who “knows the right thing to do and fails to do it, for him it is sin.” When it’s time to speak up and tell the truth and we don’t. When we drift into gossip with a friend over coffee. When we need to stick up for a brother or family member. If we chicken out and remain silent, don’t act – we are a sinful little doormat. Trampled on by others.
I am not passive at all, I am very much a active human, I will let you know when I think you are wrong. Yet many think they can wrong "Christians" and that we will let others get by with it. I am not that kind of person, in fact, if you say something ugly to me, I will forgive you, after I let you know how wrong i think you are.